Leaderless Core Groups

A dozen Christian men discover they have been invited to meet in person with Jesus Christ for two hours each week. Jesus has made it known that He would like to personally teach these men. He wishes passionately to hear their requests, to enjoy their company, and to help each of them to see that they are in fact members one of another--and members of the very Body of Christ of which He, Jesus, is the Head. Jesus is an intimate, relationship-orientated and intense man--superficial conversation, playing religion, or merely pretending to know Him, do not sit well with Him at all! Though there are millions of "professing" Christians in the world, only a handful of individuals in any given area are willing to "bother" with attending the meetings Jesus has invited them to participate in. The twelve (or so) real men under discussion in this short paper have dimly begun to see and experience a dimension of Christian experience that is exciting and transforming--far, far different than the usual Sunday morning at eleven o'clock church service the men have found often boring and of little value.

"Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I in the midst of them." (Matthew 18:18-20)

The weekly meeting when the men gather is very important to God. He has work for these men to do for Him. Jesus knows that each of the men has needs, hurts, pains and struggles which He desires to help them with. They have wives, girl-friends, relatives, colleagues at work, and friends they care about who are lost or in trouble. Only Jesus can save these people from themselves. But Jesus' ability to release power through this group is proportional to the unity these men attain in knowing and serving each other. So this weekly meeting with Jesus is a very important get together indeed. These men in fact constitute a small unit of God's secret government of earth. They are destined to judge angels, and the world, and to rule and reign with Christ when He returns. Ray Stedman wrote,

Do we truly realize the power that is available to us? Do we have any concept of the power Jesus intended for His church to wield in this dark and dangerous world? Or has our vision of the church become so dimmed that the word "church" suggests to us only a building on the corner where we go once a week to sing hymns and hear sermons?

The church, as God designed it and as the Bible describes it, is an amazing, dynamic, world-changing force. It is, in fact, a kind of invisible government, influencing and moving the visible governments of the earth. Because of the powerful influence of the church, the people of this planet are able to experience the benefits of social stability, law and order, justice and peace. Yes, the world is troubled and in turmoil--but we haven't seen even a fraction of one percent of the tribulation, tyranny, anarchy, and slaughter that would take place if the church were suddenly taken out of this world! (See Matt. 5:13,14; Phil. 2:14,15; 1 Tim. 2:1, 2.)

Whenever the church has followed the biblical pattern and become more of what God designed it to be, righteous conditions have spread throughout society. When the church has abandoned this divine pattern, relying on worldly power, becoming proud, rich and tyrannical, then it has become weak and despised--and terrible forces of evil have been unleashed in the world. (Ray C. Stedman, Body Life.

Naturally with a meeting as important as two hours spent with the Creator of the Universe, the Savior of the world, and Rightful Heir of all things, the twelve men feel a sense of anticipation, reverence and awe as they gather together. Each man prepares Himself ahead of time for this very special meeting by prayer and self-examination. Since only 120 minutes (1.2% of the total time in one week) are available for this weekly meeting with Jesus, each member is very sensitive to the fact that the agenda Jesus has for the meeting is important. What is said and done during this two hours can not be determined ahead of time, so when the meeting starts with prayer, each brother pauses to reflect on the fact that Jesus Himself is the Leader and Chairman. All the men attending are on equal standing with one another, and are the younger brothers of Jesus. Since God dwells in the hearts of each man, these men are no ordinary mortals. The realization of this fact causes the brothers to treat one another with the greatest respect and to ignore faults, blemishes and defects they see in one another which God has not yet removed from their lives. (God is not through with any of them yet.)

"So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any incentive of love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from selfishness or conceit, but in humility count others better than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others." (Philippians 2:1-4)

Naturally every man makes sure he arrives at the meeting on time and he sees to it that he has set aside the cares and confusion of the day so as to be tuned in to the invisible Presence of Jesus in the midst when the facilitator of the week opens in prayer.

I tell you the truth: it is to your advantage that I go away, for if I do not go away, the Counselor will not come to you; but if I go, I will send him to you. And when he comes, he will convince the world concerning sin and righteousness and judgment: concerning sin, because they do not believe in me; concerning righteousness, because I go to the Father, and you will see me no more; concerning judgment, because the ruler of this world is judged. "I have yet many things to say to you, but you cannot bear them now. When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth; for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come. He will glorify me, for he will take what is mine and declare it to you. All that the Father has is mine; therefore I said that he will take what is mine and declare it to you. (John 16:7-15)

Jesus has desired to meet with His people for the past two thousand years. In most churches these days He is not really welcome at all. The paid professional staff has everything organized and in perfect control. Preachers today are slick and professionally trained and can deliver flawless messages week after week with no need to consult Jesus in any depth concerning what He might wish to say to His people. The choir and orchestra practice so that the music is perfectly performed, and guaranteed to help people relax. The good music has also been found to increase church attendance and the size of the offering as well. It matters little that the people in church are total strangers and never get to know each other. There isn't time for that, and the people come from near and far anyhow, and don't have time to waste getting to know their fellow Churchgoers.

A generation of Christians reared among push buttons and automatic machines is impatient of slower and less direct methods of reaching their goals. We have been trying to apply machine-age methods to our relations with God. We read our chapter, have our short devotions, and rush away, hoping to make up for our deep inward bankruptcy by attending another gospel meeting or listening to another thrilling story told by a religious adventurer lately returned from afar. The tragic results of this spirit are all about us. Shallow lives, hollow religious philosophies, the preponderance of the element of fun in gospel meetings, the glorification of men, trust in religious externals, quasi-religious fellowships, salesmanship methods, the mistaking of dynamic personality for the power of the Spirit; these and such as these are the symptoms of an evil disease, a deep and serious malady of the soul. --A. W. Tozer, The Pursuit of God  [1948]

Jesus, it turns out, is a very gracious and sensitive gentleman. Though He has immense power at His disposal, He does not participate in the various gatherings of His people unless He is invited and welcomed. On those rare occasions when He is welcome, He is all too glad to take over all aspects of the meeting. As a result there will be always be surprises and great blessing. Sadly, such gatherings are very rare these days!

Travelers Unaware: "Why do people in churches seem like cheerful, brainless tourists on a package tour of the Absolute?...On the whole I do not find Christians, outside of the catacombs, sufficiently sensible of conditions. Does anyone have the foggiest idea of what sort of power we so blithely invoke? Or, as I suspect, does no one believe a word of it? The churches are children playing on the floor with their chemistry sets, mixing up batches of TNT to kill a Sunday morning. It is madness to wear ladies' straw hats and velvet hats to church; we should all be wearing crash helmets. Ushers should issue life preservers and signal flares; they should lash us to our pews. For the sleeping god may wake someday and take offense, or the waking god may draw us out to where we can never return." (Annie Dillard in Teaching a Stone to Talk).

The twelve men in this core group have known the Lord long enough to realize that Jesus is seeking men who are faithful, dependable, as well as honest and open with Him and with one another. They need each other, so treating their weekly time together as a matter of low priority injures the entire group. Each member is vital, valued, and has been chosen by God. He is important to the whole, regardless of his gifts or level of maturity in Christ. If the men in this group are available on His terms Jesus will use them greatly--irrespective of their status in society or their educational level or background. If the men do not care who gets the credit for His working through them, Jesus is free to use the men practically without any limitations at all!

Each of the twelve men comes from different churches. They range in age from young to old. They are single, married, and divorced. Strangely, the longer they have been meeting together the more diverse and different that each have become. But paradoxically their love and appreciation of one another has steadily increased. It did not happen all at once, but gradually the men came to see that sin in any one of their lives affects everyone else. Similarly new resurrection power obtained from Jesus by any one member was immediately diffused to benefit all the members. The life these men shared, "in Christ," was a common life--they were brothers not only for this life but forever. They found they were on the same road together as traveling companions, and the way is the Way of the cross. What makes the journey exciting (and bearable) is knowing that Jesus leads the way as their Trailblazer and Elder Brother.

"Truly, truly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit. He who loves his life loses it, and he who hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life. If any one serves me, he must follow me; and where I am, there shall my servant be also; if any one serves me, the Father will honor him." (John 12:24-26)

Amazingly, rather than speaking audibly to the group during the weekly meetings, Jesus has chosen to speak through the individual members. So, what everyone has to say during the two-hour weekly meeting of the core group is usually important! But it is challenging for the brothers to each wait for the Spirit before speaking. Often the points of view brought forth by the brothers are diverse and multi-faceted--even radical--yet harmonious. Gradually each man comes to see the subtlety of his flesh--and the worthlessness of speaking and acting on one's own energy and by self-effort.

During the rest of the week some of the men sit in class rooms and take notes on the lectures--knowing exams are ahead. Most of the men have assigned duties and job responsibilities where they report to superiors through a chain of command. But their weekly meeting with Jesus is unlike either of these two situations. Authority in the meeting with Jesus is given to the members on the basis of their servanthood.

Jesus called them to him and said to them, "You know that those who are supposed to rule over the Gentiles lord it over them, and their great men exercise authority over them. But it shall not be so among you; but whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be slave of all. For the Son of man also came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many." (Mark 10:42-45)

Two hours spent in a personal meeting with Jesus passes quickly. It is very easy to forget that Jesus is the One who called the meeting in the first place. Jesus wishes to teach new truth (and to remind them of old truth) when they get together. For this purpose one brother, the weekly facilitator, has studied ahead. That individual man will seek to draw out the rest (as God leads him)--so all participate and learn from God's word. The sharing time which follows the Bible study is vitally important. Not every man needs to contribute to the sharing time each week, and if he does, it ought to be something of interest and importance to Jesus and to the group. It is entirely possible that one brother needs special attention on a given week. Others may have nothing important to contribute that week. Jesus does not hand out a meeting schedule ahead of time--but He will guide by the Spirit if He is allowed to. Because of all the events which transpire after two hours with Jesus their Leader, the men have found it of great value to spend time together apart from the weekly meeting--in prayer walks, social activities, Bible study and soul-searching interactions.

Prayer is one of the most important parts of the weekly meetings with Jesus. But all too easily, in their enthusiasm to see one another, the individual brothers up most of the allotted time with irrelevant, unimportant, or trivial topics that would be best handled outside of the group meeting. When that happens the closing prayer time is hasty and perfunctory. In fact, Jesus has concerns for the entire outside world which he would like to communicate to His brothers. But only rarely do the brothers get beyond their own small self-centered minor problems so as to gain a global view of things from Jesus. Just as the individual brothers have come to discover that they are very self-centered human beings, so also without God's help the group would turn inward also and become a place of escape and false security from the storms of life.

But Jesus has something better in mind for His Bride, the church,

"Who is this that looks forth like the dawn, fair as the moon, bright as the sun, terrible as an army with banners?" (Song 6:10)

Ray Stedman says,

When we are changed from within, when the inside of the cup is cleansed, our entire outlook on human relationships changes. Our natural inclination, when confronted with conflict and mistreatment, is to respond with "an eye for an eye." But Jesus calls us to a new kind of response: "Bless those who persecute you." This is the response the apostle Paul calls us to when he writes, "Live in harmony with one another..Repay no one evil for evil...Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good" (Rom. 12:14-21).

The message God has entrusted to the church is the most revolutionary message the world has ever heard. Should we now surrender that message in favor of mere political and social action? Should we content ourselves with allowing the church to become just another worldly political or social organization? Do we believe God enough to agree with Him that it is Christlike love, lived out in the koinonia-community of His church, that will change the world--not political power or social agendas?

God calls us to become individually responsible to spread the radical, revolutionary, life-transforming good news of Jesus Christ throughout society. The church must again invade commercial and industrial life, education and learning, the arts and family life, government and our social institutions with this tremendous, transforming, unequaled message. The risen Lord Jesus Christ has come among us to implant His own never-ending life within us. He is ready and able to transform us into loving, compassionate, confident people, empowered to cope with any problem, any challenge life sets before us. That is our message to a weary, fearful, sorrowing world. That is the message of love and hope we bring to a hostile and despairing world.

We exist to reflect God's holiness, to reveal God's glory, and witness to the fact that Jesus has come to cleanse men and women, inside and out. We exist to love one another, and to demonstrate Christlike love to the world. That is our purpose. (Ray C. Stedman, Body Life)

Core groups are great! They are awesome supernatural encounters with the Living God--when we allow them to remain leaderless, when we come expecting Jesus to show up and take over.

"Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm; for love is strong as death, jealousy is cruel as the grave. Its flashes are flashes of fire, a most vehement flame. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it. If a man offered for love all the wealth of his house, it would be utterly scorned you who dwell in the gardens, my companions are listening for your voice; let me hear it. Make haste, my beloved, and be like a gazelle or a young stag upon the mountains of spices." (Song of Solomon 8:6-7, 13-14)

April 24, 2000

Wednesday Brothers of Thunder
Men's Core Group Guidelines and Expectations

Originated: Saturday, September 2, 2006

October 4, 2006 Update (PDF)

What's a "Wednesday Brothers of Thunder"?

A "Wednesday Brother" (for short) is anyone who is or has been a regular attended of our weekly men's group. Our two-hour meetings occur in a home in Santa Clara California on, well...Wednesday evenings. We split our time between Bible study and prayer. Sometimes there's food or snacks, but mostly not. This group has been around for over 15 years and consists of Christian men of all ages, married and single, with different jobs and careers, representing various churches in the Bay Area. Membership is voluntary. There are no membership fees, we don't take attendance, pass the collection plate, have a web site, a demo CD, stock options, benefits packages, corporate sponsors, any sort of budget, a mileages points program, an elder board (or bored elders), a multimedia ministry, a skate park, coffee shop, theme song, snappy logo, or official t-shirts. This is a non-smoking meeting.

Ok, but why "...of Thunder"?

The origin of the group's name is unknown, though possibly Slavic, but not important. None of us remembers how it came about anyway. There have been no reported cases of spontaneous thunder as a result of our meetings...yet. Somehow the name stuck, so we kept it.

Why such formal documentation? Are you all control freaks?

No, we are not all control freaks. Through trial and error this group has found a need to clearly identify its structure and intent. Without structure the quality of our meetings rapidly declined and we experience limited personal growth, and had no idea if we were supporting the larger body of Christ or influencing the Bay Area (probably not). Plus our meetings got routine and dull.

But, we are not just looking for a smooth running group! More and more we began to see ourselves as an active living part of the larger body of Christ. As such it is in our best interest to clearly identify the function of our body part and to work diligently to stay within those boundaries and keep healthy. We recognize that we do not exist in a Christian vacuum and have an affect on the body of Christ, and the world, at all times.

For example, the human heart has a very specific and limited function in the body. If it deviates from its necessary function for even a few heartbeats the entire body suffers. Likewise if a leg decided that one day they would like to try be, say, a nostril, chaos would ensue in the body. If we cut our elbow and don't mend the wound it could become infected, all yucky and green, and would need amputation. You get the idea.

For this reason we (our body part) have chosen to identify ourselves by documenting our guidelines and expectations. That may sound too "corporate" and not enough "leading by the spirit", but we didn't have any better way to do it. So, this document reflects our best efforts to define the boundaries where we work best. We hope this will keep us from becoming a nostril when what we really are is an eyebrow, and provide a framework to grow and connect with the Body and our world. Of course this is all done with prayer and the Lord's leading (He is the head of the body after all). We also realize the Lord isn't finished with any of us or this group, so we review these guidelines and expectations occasionally to make sure we are on the right track. Changes are made when and where necessary.

What follows are the guidelines and expectations of members of this group. Anyone who considers himself a "Wednesday Brother" regularly attends our meetings and agrees to follow them as best they can. If that is you, keep this handy! We need your help sticking to these guidelines and expectations. If that isn't you feel free to fold these pages into a paper airplanes and toss them around the office, or maybe just remind us about what total control freaks we are. Bible Study Time

* Our Bible study time is generally expository. We pick a book of the Bible and read through it verse by verse discussing and praying along the way. This takes about 1 hour each week.

* This is a "leaderless" group but there is rotational "chairman" for the week. This "chairman" has the responsibility of leading and guiding the discussion based upon their study and prayer beforehand, keeping us on topic (for the most part), and keeping us on time. The "chairman" may or may not change weekly. Any member of the group can be "chairman".

* We know that flexibility and listening to the Lord is key. This means we may not always finish where we want to, and have to conclude the section the following week. This is OK.

* We will get the most out of the study time when each member comes having done their own study and prayer over the passage.

* Everyone is encouraged to contribute. There are no stupid questions. Honesty is valued.

* When disagreements arise we will strive to focus on the main issues and keep the minor things minor. We realize we may not always agree on all issues.

* We all agree that the Lord is not finished with us and there's much we have to learn about Him and His word.

Prayer and Sharing Time

* This is a men's group. Issues discussed are understood to be personal and private. What is said in the room stays in the room.

* If you talk about a personal issue you making it "public domain" and are giving the group permission to come along side you to support, encourage, or challenge as needed. If you don't want that don't bring up the issue.

* We will strive to speak the truth in love and to create a safe place for us to grow. We know this can be difficult so we don't expect to always be "comfortable" and expect to be asked hard questions when they are needed.

* Passive participation is not acceptable in this group.

* Honesty and transparency are encouraged.

* Courage in making ourselves vulnerable is valued.

* We agree to use active listening skills to the best of our abilities. We seek to listen first and understand the person speaking.

* We try not to see each other as problems to be "fixed".

* We want to pray specifically for the core issues. We try to avoid "sore toe" prayers.

Listening Guidelines for Sharing Time

* When I'm thinking about an answer while others are talking, I'm not listening.

* When I give unsolicited advice, I'm not listening. Unsolicited advice always seems like criticism.

* When I suggest they shouldn't feel the way they do, I'm not listening.

* When I apply a quick fix to their problem, I'm not listening.

* When I fail to acknowledge their feelings, I'm not listening.

* When I fidget, glance at my watch and appear to be rushed, I'm not listening.

* When I fail to maintain eye contact, I'm not listening.

* When I don't ask follow-up questions, I'm not listening.

* When I top their story with a bigger, better story of my own, I'm not listening.

* When they share a difficult experience and I counter with one of my own, I'm not listening.

Expectations of Members

1. We are "leaderless" by choice--to avoid the usual Bible study format of a teacher and a passive audience. Our Teacher and Leader is Jesus--we are all brothers and therefore all equals. Therefore everyone's sharing carries the same weight and the views of every member are important. At the start of each meeting it is important to remember that Jesus is in charge and He is in our very midst. Our two hours together is very different from anything else we do all week long. The Facilitator for the Bible study hour should not lecture but draw out the members when possible (Socratic method). The Facilitator for the Sharing Time should be direct and firmly in control, gently confrontational as necessary, to keep the group focused and in depth.

2. The group does not work well if members are irregular in showing up. This weekly meeting should be a very high priority for each member. We ought to start and end on time. We gather together to meet with Jesus not merely with one another. He is the Head of the Body. Guests are always welcome.

3. The sharing time is very important. If you have nothing important to share, then don't make up a bunch of low-content information to waste time and to draw attention to yourself. Be sensitive that one of the brothers may have major matters to bring up and pray about, and we should keep our own sharing brief and to the point--and watch the clock. If a member never contributes or shares the rest of the body loses something important. If one member talks too much and rambles the "acting chairman" should move the discussion to someone else. The Sharing time Facilitator may wish to poll the group ahead of time to see who has something important to share and how much time should be allotted, as well as making a triage list.

4. Prayer time at the end often gets crowded down to a few minutes and this is not good. This situation arises because individuals are not sensitive to the clock and to others in the group. Our prayer time ought to be the high point of the entire two hours together.

5. A certain level of Christian maturity is necessary for members to catch on to the dynamics of the group--which is merely a microcosm of the Body of Christ as God intended it to function in the world. We deal with real life adult issues in a safe environment where it is OK to share private matters with trusted brothers. Immature Christians will often be uncomfortable with our usual openness, and if so, it's OK to move on.

6. Many newcomers think we are just another Bible study. Wrong! We are a CORE group whose purpose is to learn more about the Bible in depth and to practice Body Life in a small and intimate setting. The group is for serious Christians. See http://www.raystedman.org/bodylife/

7. Friendships between the members outside of the group time are especially valuable. Since this group has been around for about 15 year we have a long chain of brothers we still feel connected to because of our past times together in the group. Time together outside the group meeting is encouraged but not expected.

8. No one is expected to be perfect.

Reference Material and Recommended Reading


* The Palo Alto Think and Pray Group, 1970: http://www.ldolphin.org/patpg.html

* Leaderless Core Groups: http://www.ldolphin.org/leaderless.html

* Small Group Guidelines, http://www.ldolphin.org/Core.html

* Description of the Spiritual Gifts in the Body of Christ, http://www.ldolphin.org/Spgifts.html

* About body life: http://www.raystedman.org/bodylife/

Printed Material

* The Bible (any version as long as you read it), by God.

* Almost everything written by Ray Stedman

* The Four Loves, The Screwtape Letters, The Great Divorce, by C.S. Lewis

--Mike McKenna

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